Friday, February 28, 2014

A First Time for Everything

Today we took another important first step in our journey towards growing our family again.  We met with the fertility doctor.  Let me tell you that specialist doctors know how to decorate their offices.  It was complete with fancy chairs, TV's in the rooms, and keurig.  Not to mention the cutest book of baby success stories I've ever seen.  I didn't make it past the first page because it was too emotional for me. I guess if most doctors charged what IVF doctors do they would be able to make super fancy baby books too.

The doctor mostly echoed what my OBGYN has said all along but expounded on important information.  Anna was born by emergency c-section because her chord was coming out before she was.  It was a safety issue and I don't regret it at all.  It turns out that my body responded to the surgery by producing massive amounts of scar tissue that unfortunately pushed my tubes up so high rendering them almost useless when it comes to making a baby.  How ironic that bringing life into the world contributed to my body's ability to do it all again.  Even if Anna is the only one we could conceive naturally she is worth every scar or side effect of the birth process.

So with all of that said it looks like in vitro is our only option going forward unless by some miracle I'm pregnant and don't know it yet.  The in vitro process is a lot more complicated than I ever dreamed it would be.  First of all there are all of these different "package" deals you can choose.  We sit down with the financial lady next week to discuss them all. My head hurt just thinking about all the different numbers.  Second of all there are a lot of drugs involved in the process.  He did assure me that they would walk me through how to give myself shots every day.  I wonder how he would feel about a 3 year old administering them.  Please know that was a joke.

So at the end of March we will start the six week process that is in vitro with hopeful hearts.  I will be in the late April/early May group.  We are feeling good about moving forward with everything.  I'm sure I will have lots to write about once we start this process.  We are staying positive and trying to keep our humor through all of this.  The doctor said I am a great candidate for this and that people my age have a great success rate.  We are hoping to be apart of this success rate very soon!


Tuesday, February 4, 2014

A Roller Coaster Ride

I hate roller coasters with a passion. I get motion sickness riding on a swing so you can imagine what would happen on a roller coaster. Ferris wheels are okay but nothing else. I did do Splash Mountain in the 5th grade and screamed so loud I think I broke my mom's ear drums. I do not enjoy the thrill that comes along with it.

Lately life has been like a roller coaster emotionally and physically. Although I am learning a lot and growing it has been pretty rough. I wouldn't wish this on anyone. There are other ways to learn the good ole life lessons we have been learning. The ups have been few and far in between and the downs have seemed to dominate but we are determined to keep going.

After lots of ups and downs with my OBGYN we have decided it is time to move to a reproductive endocrinologist (a.k.a a fertility doctor) to get more insight into what is going on. My doctor has been great but we have come to the end of her knowledge on the subject. So now we move into finding the right RE for us in the Bay Area. It seems like there are thousands of clinics to choose from but hopefully we will find the right fit quickly.

We are looking for a doctor with a positive outlook on our situation who is dedicated to helping us do whatever it takes to get past whatever health issues are holding us back from expanding our family. Does that kind of doctor exist?

So here we go moving back up the roller coaster that we don't want to be on anymore. The truth I hold on to is knowing that God promises to work all things together for our good. We believe that none of our struggles will be wasted.

I keep holding on to the hope that one day this will all be a distant memory. Until then we will keep fighting because anything of any kind of value is worth fighting for.

Life is a roller coaster so we better hold on tight!